I hate that I love you

Disclaimer: This post is just my opinion and how I deal with my emotions.

Have you ever told someone that you hated them? But deep down inside, you would do anything for them?

If you’re one of those women who has been hurt in the past, then you would understand why someone like me would go through extreme measures to protect our heart. Sadly, most of us make the drastic decision to break our own heart before the person we love does. The enemy isn’t our significant other, it’s fear.

We just fear to get hurt again.

Personally, when I begin to feel like I’m fighting in a relationship alone, my defense mechanisms kick in and the only solution is to leave. I leave to protect my heart from further damage. The last thing I want in life is to see myself in a dark place again. I don’t ever want to see myself there again. I would rather hurt myself before allowing someone to hurt me.

My number one rule when it comes to love: Never BEG someone to love you.

If you feel like he’s not giving you enough attention, tell him once. If you feel like he’s not giving you the love you deserve, tell him once. Give him a chance to fix it. No man is perfect and he deserves a chance. Communication in a relationship is very important and he deserves to know what’s bothering you. If he cares, he will be willing to compromise. Key word: Compromise. Communication is only effective when compromise follows.

Love is compromise.

If he won’t compromise, you’re going to continue to fight the battle alone, which is self damaging.

I’m not going to sit here and tell you that it’s okay to give up on your relationship if he doesn’t put in his 100%. I’m just saying that it’s okay to protect your heart. It takes two people to make it work.

Think about the first time you met this person. It took the both of you to make something happen, right?

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