The Silent Killer

The hardest part about depression following a heartbreak is waking up in the morning telling yourself that you aren’t good enough. You feel so alone and not worthy of being loved. The pain hits you in your heart to the point where you find yourself lost and unworthy, getting out of bed seems impossible.

It’s been an emotional rollercoaster for me in the last few days. Lately I’ve been scared to fall asleep at night because I hate the feeling of emptiness the next morning. And when I do gather myself to get out of bed to make it to work, I find myself spacing out throughout my work day, crying at my desk, looking for reasons to leave.

Why did he do this?

Sometimes I wonder if he really meant what he said when he told me that he was into me, that he cared about me, and was feeling me. The way he left was opposite of what I expected. I thought we were tighter than that. But I guess I was wrong. I have to admit, I played a huge part in it too, but all I wanted was communication. He said I didn’t understand him, but how was I supposed to understand him when he wasn’t communicating?

I knew he was beginning to change when the communication started to become less and less. Two phone calls turned into one. Then one phone all turned to none. It was beginning to bother me so I started to grow more resentful, despite what he was going through. I tried to avoid resenting him, that it turned into slowly turned into sadness, then transitioned into anger and I spazzed out. He knew I deserved so much netter, he knew he couldn’t provide, yet I looked beyond all of that because I liked him for who he was. But no matter how much I felt for him, at the end of the day, HE didn’t love who he was.

Now here we are, two strangers again.

Today is my sister Jenn’s 1 Year Heavenly Anniversary. I was in so much anguish this morning, yet I managed to get up and get ready just for her. Because I know that this is what should we want; for me to get my ass out of bed and to be happy.

As I mentioned before, I lost my friend Jenn last year on October 5, 2020, which was also on my daughter’s birthday. This week has been a living hell. Not only do I have to be reminded of my friend’s death, but to have lost someone who I thought was “the one”.

Many people don’t understand what depression is. As I mentioned in the beginning of this blog post, imagine waking up in the morning feeling hopeless, unworthy of love, and empty. It feels like I have no purpose. It’s absolutely one of the worst things anyone has to go through. I don’t trust a lot of people because I don’t feel that they fully understand the extent of pain, after coming off a 4 year relationship with a cheater, then being involved with a man who didn’t even want to fight for me, or should I say us. I can’t even look at his photos right now because I get sick. He hurt me the most because as soon as I let my guard down, he went straight for my soul and destroyed it.

I know that there’s millions of other women in this world that has been through the pain of a heartbreak at least once in their lifetime. This shit isn’t easy. Telling a heartbroken woman to move on is easier said than done, but it’s all you can do to heal. They say time heals all wounds — as of right now, it feels like this is going to stick for a long time before I can even think of dating another man again. The last ounce of trust and hope I did have, went to him. So I guess you can say that I’m done. I have no more energy left to start over with anyone new.

I deactivated my Facebook account because I know myself and I don’t want any of my bad energy to go on anyone reading my depressing posts. If anything, all I can do is take it one day at a time, give it to God and pray. Pray for healing and pray for him.

I’m fucking devastated. 😔

Simple Recipes during Quarantine — Easy Honey Garlic Marinade for Chicken

Eating snacks is cool and all but what about dinner?

I’m currently on Day 3 of “Lockdown” and Trump announced this morning that drugs used to treat malaria and severe arthritis, were approved by the Food and Drug Administration to test as a COVID-19 coronavirus treatment. We’ll see how that goes. I’ve been struggling to adjust to this new lifestyle and it’s tough staying indoors all day especially when you’re a naturally outgoing person.

Anyway, I went to the grocery store yesterday and I noticed that chicken seemed to be popular during quarantine since the poultry section was cleared out. So I walked over to the beef section instead — low and behold, I found a small pack of drumsticks waiting for me next to the ground beef. Score! I grabbed the pack of chicken and a few other things then checked out as fast as I could. The store wasn’t as crowded but it was apparent that people didn’t understand what social distancing meant.

Fast forward, I want to share an easy marinade recipe with you. You can use chicken thighs or chicken drumsticks. But like I said in my previous post, I am not a fancy chef nor did I go to culinary school. Growing up with two younger brothers, I had to learn how to cook so I could feed my brother and myself while my parents were at work or out “gallivanting”.

This recipe is for 5 large chicken drumsticks. I know, I know…this was all I could find at the grocery store.

These are common ingredients that can be found in your pantry!

Honey Garlic Marinade

  • 5 Chicken thighs or 5 Large Chicken Drumsticks
  • 3 cloves of garlic — chopped
  • 1/4 cup of vinegar, I used Braggs Apple Cider Vinegar
  • 1/4 cup of soy sauce
  • 3 tbsp of honey
  • 1/8 cup of water
  • Ground pepper (optional)

Add all ingredients to a bowl and mix.

Add the chicken, cover up the bowl, place it in your refrigerator and allow it to marinate for 30 minutes to an hour. I normally marinate my chicken for more than an hour. It’s up to you.

And there you go, a quick and simple marinade for chicken. After it’s done marinating, remove the chicken from the bowl and discard the liquid. You can either grill the chicken or bake it. If you choose to bake it, place the marinated chicken in an oven safe baking pan or glass baking dish at 350 degrees for an hour.

I find this recipe helpful to people that normally don’t cook at home. Be safe out there!

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